We all have fears but it is how we deal with them that can separate us from the pack, give us a life less ordinary and move us in the direction of our dreams. When I first started my work from home business, I almost pulled out before I had even started because of the fears I had. I am so thankful that I didn’t let the fear stop me from discovering my purpose and creating the life I have today!!
Fear can be our greatest enemy because it can rob us of new opportunities and experiences without even having any real existence. It is that internal dialogue that can keep us living our average, mediocre life and stops us from becoming the person we are meant to be. We can sabotage our own dreams and goals. What does the voice of fear tell you? It usually tells you that you can’t do it, what will they think, you are not going to make it, what if you fail, what if people tell you “no”? etc. It can also be other people who are negative around you.
There are many fears that can prevent you from taking steps to starting, continuing and building your home business.
These are the most common fears:
♥ Fear of failure.
Failure is something to fear, but not so much so that it stops you from trying. Instead it should fuel your desire to achieve success. You may have heard the statistics that many businesses fail within the first five years. What you don’t often hear is why. It’s not fate or a random lottery that dooms businesses. Many business failures can be avoided with proper planning, support, training and implementation. Action and education are the two ways to overcome the fear of failure. Doing something brings you closer to your goal. Education in the form of reading, seminars, courses, and coaching or mentorship ensures you are taking the right action.
♥ Fear of doing new things.
Many times in business and in life, we get too comfortable. We find solid ground – a place that feels safe – we get comfortable, and we settle in. We’re programmed to do it. It’s how we operate. Look for safety and stay there. But these days, it’s imperative that we act against our programming to truly succeed and find our own greatness. I have been approached to start a Business and Health Radio Show, something I have never done before. Do you think I have some fear? YES but there is no way I am going to let this opportunity pass me by and have regrets!
♥ Fear of what people think.
First of all, people don’t think about you nearly as much as you think they do. Second of all, who cares what they think? Are they living a fulfilled life? Are they doing the things you want to be able to do? Probably not. And if not, then they aren’t the type of people you should be listening to or worrying about. The best way to get over this fear is to align yourself with people who have achieved or are working on achieving similar goals. Find a mentor or a coach who can personally guide you through the process and offer the support you need.
♥ Fear of not knowing what to do.
Getting the right support and training is so important. Don’t try to do it on your own, join a team of people doing the same thing! Learning new things can be daunting but it can also be fun and exciting. Give yourself time to learn new skills.
♥ Fear of not making enough money.
This fear has lost a little of its oomph because jobs aren’t as secure as they used to be. At one time the lure of a stable, well-paying job with benefits outweighed the idea of owning a business in which income is inconsistent. The trick to overcoming the money fear is to know what you need to earn to pay the bills, know how much your business costs to run, and add an extra 10% to be safe. Once you have a number, you can calculate how many clients or sales you need. From there you determine how many prospects you need to get your business in front of to get the clients or sales you need. Then you start marketing.
While fear can keep us from getting hurt by preventing us from standing to close to the edge, fear doesn’t always mean “STOP”. Sometimes it’s just a caution sign. The fears listed above are real and should be acknowledged. But they are signals that research, planning and coaching or mentorship are needed to avoid having the fears become a reality.
How can you get rid of fear?
ACTION, ACTION, ACTION!!!
The best thing you can do is to face your fear head on. “I believe that anyone can conquer fear by doing the things she fears to do, provided she keeps doing them until she gets a record of successful experience behind her.”Eleanor Roosevelt
Recognise the voice that tells you all the things you can’t do and learn how to challenge it. Believe that you can do it and focus on the thing that you want because what you focus on, you will get. If you focus on the fear and the failure…guess what?…you will get fear and failure but if you focus on the things you want, you will get them.
Ultimately, getting rid of fear and other negative emotions and undesirable behaviors such as procrastination, doubt, unbelief and excuses) requires eliminating the beliefs that cause the problem.
This is a great exercise to do:
Take out a piece of paper and a pen and turn the paper on its side so you’re writing across the long side. Make five columns on your paper. In the first column, make a list of the things that scare you the most. Then in the second column, for each of those fears, write down what is the absolute worst thing that could happen if your fears came true. In the third column, write down how likely the worst thing is to happen. Then in the fourth column, write down how that fear is holding you back. In the last column, for at least one of the fears you’ve listed, write down how you are going to face that fear. Make it tangible- give yourself an action to take and a date by which you will take that action. And follow through!
We all have fear but we need to learn how to master it. Mark Twain once said, “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear.” Successful people aren’t people who conquered fear, they’re people who faced fear. They’re people who were afraid and did it anyway.
When it comes to starting and building our home business, when we start something new, it isn’t easy and it takes some effort, however when we apply consistency, focus and action, we achieve results.
If only I could get rid of my fear of spiders… 🙁
What fears do you have that are holding you back? Leave a comment below.